By Steve Clayton
How often have we heard the phrases ‘Life is the greatest gift of all’ or ‘if you do not have your health you do not have anything’? Unfortunately, there is something in the human psyche that allows us to dismiss these phrases with little or no consideration. They are just pleasant platitudes to be ignored as each of us tries to carve out our corner of existence. Once we are a success then we will have time for such leisurely thinking. Therein lays the rub, for what is the definition of success? Ask one hundred people and you will probably get close to one hundred different answers.
Many measure success on monetary and/or material criteria; criteria that omit the ‘human element’ of existence in the never ending quest for more and better things. Before I get far off topic as I can so easily do, I bring this topic up in response to a disturbing trend I have noticed in my energy work. During the sessions I will get messages for people. Often the most basic message I receive comes towards the end of the session when I am prompted to tell the person that they are a good person. If the session is in-person, the person I have just told this to will blush profusely, drop their eyes being unable to look me in the eye any longer and, turning their head, will ask in a hushed voice, “Why would you say that?” One would think I had just accused them of being a horrible human being guilty of some horrendous atrocity. If the session is a distance one and I tell them they are a good person in a follow-up e-mail I often get quite a long or strident reply as to why they are not a good person.
I find these responses quite distressing. Life is a gift. Life is a miracle however you want to define miracles. Whether you believe we are here by accident or that we are here because of a great Divine plan that supersedes anything that we have yet to truly comprehend, you cannot escape the magnificence of life (I believe in the latter just to be clear). Each one of us has beaten the odds to be here. Each one of us is a unique individual. We all share commonalities that come from being homo sapiens but we are unique in our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual make up. We are united by our capacity for love and we are separate in how we express love. We are individuals in this realm, here for reasons we may or may not understand, but we are here, we are unique, and we are having a uniquely human experience. This should be enough for our self-esteem. Couple this with the fact that we are having this experience in a vast, intricate, diverse web of life here on the planet Earth and the Earth itself is part of an even greater web of life, the universe, then we should be euphoric to simply be alive. We should be happy with ourselves to have made it this far; by extension, we should then believe in ourselves and our innate goodness.
Of course this is easier said than done, so here’s a good exercise. Make a list of your positive attributes and a list of your so-called negative attributes. Better yet, have a family member or a good friend help. How they see you may be a surprise for they will point out good traits in you that you may take for granted. I say this because along with Chios Healing I do EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). In a nutshell, at the beginning of a session people state all the negatives they see within themselves; as the session proceeds they state all their positive attributes. Not surprisingly, they struggle here but, with a little help from me, their list of positive attributes grows. They may be kind, a good listener, or willing to share. They may have a talent that makes them and others joyful. They may be gentle or loyal. The list can go on and on; your own list can go on and on too, but you will not discover this if you do not explore your inner landscape through both introspection and honest discussion with friends and loved ones.
Take the time to make yourself a priority. Make your list of positive attributes big or small and work on it for as long as you need. Read it every morning when you awake or before you fall asleep. Read it when you are feeling sad, depressed or lethargic. Read it until you believe it. Read it until you believe you are worthy of the gift of life; because you are, and you are a GOOD person.