By Steve Clayton
When I sat down to write this article, I was intending to write about the importance of having fun. As happens so often, what we intend to do leads to totally different consequences than we had originally expected. This is so common we even have an adage that states ‘the road to hell is paved with good intentions’.
Why do our plans miss their intended mark? Where, and how, do we so often go awry?
I am told the answer is unnervingly simple, but because we are human our egos cannot, and do not, like a simple explanation. Our egos want grandiose reasons for things as if a complicated answer to a question or problem somehow justifies the existence of the question or problem in the first place. Simply put, a complicated answer makes us feel more important; it massages our egos and it gives us justification.
Have you ever stopped to notice how often we have to justify ourselves for anything positive that may be happening in our lives. How dare one be happy; the world is full of bad things or, that person is bad so how can you forgive or have compassion for them? Happiness, compassion, forgiveness all have to be justified as if they are not worthy in and of themselves. But to be unhappy, to act badly, or to be judgmental, are all instantly justified by the belief the world is a bad place and such behaviour is to be expected. If a person believes or expects otherwise then that person must have something wrong with them. Talk about a self fulfilling prophesy or conundrum! It is no wonder our intentions do not always pan out.
So how do we remove ourselves from this negative spin we have placed upon ourselves and the world around us? How do we align our intentions with more positive results?
The answer quite simply is faith.
Have faith in one’s self. Have faith in others and have faith that the world is intrinsically a good place. Express that faith. Do not keep it bottled up inside. Faith needs the light of day to flourish.
A case and point is that years ago I worked closely with a fellow who had a bit of a checkered past but whom I believed was not a ‘bad’ person. There was some heavy machinery involved with the job, and the other workers were reluctant to work with this guy when he was running the machinery as he was in a much safer place than the person helping him. When I volunteered to help out he even said to me, “no one else wants to do that.” “That’s alright, I have faith in you,” I replied. He was very careful and never once put me in harm’s way. He even replied for me when coworker asked me why I worked with him, saying, “He has faith in me.” Was I the first person to ever tell him I had faith in him? I certainly hope not. My point here is that by expressing my faith in him he responded in a positive fashion. If I had hopped onto the machine and said, “I’m probably going to get hurt working with you but I need the money,” would he have been as careful? Hard to say, but I noticed as time went on that he was just as careful with others as he had been with me.
Whatever your intentions may be, you have to have faith and you have to express your faith either by words or actions. By doing so you are putting your own stamp, so to speak, upon the process, and positive results will come back to you as well as to others. Will the simple act of faith make everything work out for you? Maybe not, as nothing ever seems to work out perfectly one hundred percent of the time, but by having and expressing faith in yourself and in others, you will find that the majority of time things will work out for the best for all concerned. Faith is one way to break the cycle of negativity.